Wishing For the Spark

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I am sure you have heard this before; I have been with my current boyfriend almost four months but still feel no spark. Nice guy, appreciates me, makes me laugh, but still no spark. I haven't met anyone better, so the motivation to end this isn't high, but it's been driving me crazy!  I've tried "the spark will come with love!" thing, and its been four months now, and I still just think of him as a great friend.

Am I being a complete moron if I end this? He treats me better than any guy ever has, and is way more mature. I also really do want him in my life for a long time. I am looking for the best of both worlds. A great guy, with the spark. Is that unreal? -- Karma Conscious in MA

Dear KCMA: You're done. There's no better way to say it than that, but the Bitter Single Guy knows you need more so he wants you to go with him on a little trip 10 years in the future.  Here you are with No Spark Guy, you're celebrating the 10th anniversary of your first date.  You look deeply into his eyes and as always, you feel nothing other than the warmth you get when you pat a dog on the head, but you've decided to settle for this tepid dishwater of a relationship so you're happy, or at least you think you are.

Then you notice the waiter looking at you and suddenly you hear a buzzing in your head, you feel butterflies in your stomach and you get a tiny tingle in a place that hasn't tingled for a long time. You realize that you have sold out on living your life to the fullest and that No Spark Guy, while still quite nice, has lulled you into mediocrity.

So you break his heart after 10 years, leaving him to wonder what happened when things seemed just as good to him as they had on your first date.  Well of course he's confused, that's how they felt to you, too!

KCMA if you choose to stay because you have no current better offers, that's a little cold hearted, but you wouldn't be the first.  The BSG recommends breaking it off and getting a new hobby while you wait for an actual spark.