Bitter Single Guy Reveals his Alter Ego

 Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have been "dating" this guy for a few months. In the beginning we got along great and had lots of fun together. Recently, out of the clear blue my beau tells me he doesn't want a girlfriend, but he says he doesn't want to date anyone else, so we see each other maybe 1-2 times a week. So, here's the big question: If he didn't want me as a girlfriend why does he show up everywhere I am? He will show up at local pubs where I hang out with my friends and hang with us the whole night like I'm his drinking buddy or something. He leaves when I do (not with anybody, not with me either). Help! -- Confused About Men

Dear CAM: In his most loving and supportive manner, the Bitter Single Guy finds himself wanting to tell your gentle beau to shit or get off the pot! (not to infer that you are in any way "pot-like"). Alas however, this gentleman has not brought his concerns to the BSG, so, we're on our own. Fortunately for us, the BSG can channel his alter ego: Boundary Boy!

Boundary Boy's sworn mission is to help those wishy-washy folks with no boundaries set limits in their lives. However, even Boundary Boy's vaunted powers cannot help your gentle beau at such a distance, so it is your boundaries we have to strengthen. It seems the choices are: 1) Girlfriend 2) Casual date 3) Drinking buddy 4) Dump him So, of the above choices, 1 is out of your control, 2 & 3 are somewhat in your control, but seem to be irritating you. What's left? You heard it here first, CAM. Dump his sorry ass. Maybe after he does without for a while, he'll rethink the whole "girlfriend" thing and come crawling back. If so, snub him for a while before you relent.