Dating Your Friend's Ex

 Dear Bitter Single Guy: I desperately need your guidance, I have recently met this amazing woman who makes me smile uncontrollably, however she is my friend's ex. He dated her for a month and I met her six months later (yes, through him). We clicked immediately and started seeing each other in secret to avoid hurting anyone's feelings. However we recently told him, and now he hates us both. My new girlfriend can't stand this no matter how much she "loves" me, so it's destroying our relationship. How do I salvage this? -- Lost and Confused.

Dear LAC: There are days when the BSG wishes he offered advice on accounting principles or on welding techniques. Either of those choices are likely (the BSG guesses) to be less maddening than providing advice about relationships. Truly though…the BSG would only find so much to say about accounting before he started knocking heads, so he's probably better off here.

LAC, ideally your friend would understand that if he and his Delicate Flower have been apart for 6 months, then his time with her has probably run out. Similarly, it would be neato if your friend would understand that folks most often date within their social circles, so it's just logical that you and this Delicate Flower would connect in this most special of ways. Sadly though, folks seem to want a date with no scary romantic history whatsoever and when they're done, seem to expect that their ex will now enter a nunnery (SUCH a more festive word that convent) and have no further romantic contact until death. The BSG knows that some of you are laughing even you know that deep down (or right there at the surface) this describes you.

But there is no use expecting reason to win out over emotion. All you can do is try to weather this storm to see if your Delicate Flower is willing to take some temporary grief from her ex in order to be with Mr. Right (you in this case, LAC. Although formerly her ex).