Gambling with Love

 Dear Bitter Single Guy: I've been with my partner for 10 years and we still have great sex and companionship. Suddenly he wants out; but doesn't want to tell anyone, doesn't want drama, and doesn't want to burn any bridges with me but still wants to have the great sex. He says he loves me but is not in love (who is after 10 years?). I really don't get it and sometimes I think that he is doing this to keep me interested (he does have a history of deliberately trying to make me jealous). Only Wanted for One Thing

Dear OWOT: The Bitter Single Guy has two thoughts for you. First: the BSG can tell that your gut is telling you that this lets-break-up-but-still-have-sex-thing is just not OK and he believes you should go with your gut on this. If you really have the suspicion that this gambling man is playing you to make you jealous, call his bluff and boot his happy ass out onto the street. Tell him that you're saving your great sex for someone who ALSO is interested in being a relationship with you.

Secondly OWOT, the BSG is concerned that you accept not being in love after 10 years. At least, the BSG was concerned until he recalled that his own relationship experience has not yet passed the 5 year mark (OK, the 3 year mark and that was 5 years ago. Damn.) The BSG would like to believe that it's possible to remain in love after 10 years and if you're not (and clearly you're not) the BSG encourages you to move on as well.