Help Me Get Lucky!
Dear Bitter Single Guy,
I am an in-closet bisexual. I just checked into this new apartment building and this other man started showing an interest in me (or I think he did). We are really great friends and I don't want to ask if he wants to hook up if he isn't interested.
I've just been picking up on these things like a slight brush on my arms and back every once in a while. He seems really uncomfortable around porn too. We were playing games online and a straight porn ad popped up. He flipped it off very fast. I just don't know what to do. I have never been with a man before.
Ready To Be Picked
Dear R.T.B.P.
First, the B.S.G. has to clarify what most of his readers have no doubt already guessed…the B.S.G. himself usually provides the "signature" for letters he answers, unless it's already clever. This poor gentleman is hardly ready to realize just how "ready to be picked" he is...just one more service provided by the B.S.G.!
Dear R.T.B.P.,
The Bitter Single Guy has great news for you! The answer to your dilemma is actually really EASY! OK, just kidding. The B.S.G. knows that you would never expect an easy answer from him, so here goes.
Even though you're just discovering this budding new attraction to your own gender, that doesn't mean that you don't have some inkling of that most wonderful of gay traits….gay-dar. Basically, R.T.B.P., if you think this gentleman is flirting with you, there is a pretty good chance that he is! So, that's the easy part! Here's the hard part:
He may be unsure of your attraction, or he may not be sure of his own, or even worse…he may be the elusive and treacherous Equal Opportunity Flirt. Beware if this is the case, R.T.B.P. because the Equal Opportunity Flirt makes both men and women want him, and often wants nothing more than that from EITHER of them.
There is no easy way here, R.T.B.P., so here's the B.S.G.'s recommendation. It will take much subtlety, but you need to make some overtly flirty gesture that will not be mistaken if he IS interested, but can be laughed off if he isn't. The B.S.G. is imagining a light brush of the back of your finger along his jawline, or a gentle squeeze of his bicep. Either of these gestures will do…or in the absence of such subtle measures, you can always just get drunk and make a pass at him. Tacky, but a time-honored tradition, the B.S.G. assures you.
By the way, R.T.B.P., the B.S.G has two random observations: for a newbie to bisexual land, the term "hook up" rolls off your keyboard pretty easily. Hmmm…what's that about? Secondly, the B.S.G. knows NO gay men who are creeped out by straight porn, so don't rely on that test. Good luck and Happy Pride, R.T.B.P.
B.S.G.