The Fine Line Between Intuition and Paranoia

been happy with the relationship. He never talks about anything important, like what's going on in his life or any problems he has and I'd really like to know how he feels about our relationship. Recently he cancelled a date to go climbing with a girl who's just a 'good friend'. I'm not worried he'll actually cheat, but I am worried he's interested in this girl and maybe not so committed to me. Should I try talking to him or should I just cut and run? I like him but I don't want to feel jealous and frustrated! Is It Worth Saving?

Dear IIWS: The Bitter Single Guy SO feels your pain! Unfortunately, he seems to find himself in similar straits more oven than he would like to admit. IIWS, the challenge here is to determine whether you are over reacting to innocent behavior and when finely tuned instincts are warning you of impending disaster. Sadly, the line between crafty intuition and raving paranoia is thinner than a politician's excuses for philandering (and that's mighty thin).

IIWS build the image in your mind that your relationship is coming to an end, think about what it will be like when your suspicions come true. While imagining this, use your reasonable mind to keep your wacky emotional mind in check so you don't wig out and go postal on the poor lad.

Imagining the worse will reduce your dependence on your self-absorbed stud and make you more self-reliant. This will either prepare you for the reality of being dumped, or it will make your self-absorbed stud start to feel as uncertain as you do today. Trust the BSG that this is a good thing and will result in him crawling back to beg for your attention.