It was Just Dinner

Dear Bitter Single Guy: My husband's best friend has been staying with us since a recent break up. The three of us have lots of fun together, but I think my husband's friend and I have feelings for each other. Neither of us has said anything, but when he stares deep into my eyes from across the table while having a wonderful dinner (that he prepared for me) and says: "It's wonderful to be able to feel again", my spine tingles. My husband and I have been married 4 years, I love him and we have a wonderful, practical relationship but don't have the spark I'm feeling from his best friend. Any words of wisdom? -- Screwed Up and Feeling Guilty

Dear S.U.F.G., The Bitter Single Guy has made it his purpose…his LIFE, really… to support those in need. His is a sacred calling to help the hapless and heartbroken navigate the treacherous seas of love and relationship. So, it is from this place of nurturing and support that the B.S.G. has to ask, What the H-E-Double-Hockey-Sticks are you THINKING, S.U.F.G.?! Did you actually have a date in your own home with this man during which he told you it was "wonderful to feel again"?! If the B.S.G. can use a mealtime metaphor, you and your husband are in the kitchen preparing the meal of a lifetime and suddenly you want to go out back and fire up the grill, leaving your sweet, practical husband holding his tongs and wondering what happened.

If you have problems in your marriage, work on your marriage. If the spark doesn't come, or was never there, make the decision to end that relationship because you want something that is missing. Don't just jump ship for a cheesy line about feelings from some smooth-talking devil in your house. As a matter of fact, throw the bum out for making inappropriate advances on his hostess! The B.S.G. is all fired up now and thinks he should stop. Really, S.U.F.G., what did you expect here? - B.S.G.