Flirtatious Filly - Leading them on

Dear Bitter Single Guy: Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and a half and I can’t trust her. Every few months she gets a new guy "friend" but it always seems like more than just a friend. Usually I’m right and the new friend wants more than friendship even though she always lets them know that she is in a relationship. I did some snooping recently and found the name "fucking tease" in her phone.  She said that it was her friend’s nickname but I think differently. She always comes up with great lies so I don’t know what to think. Am I just blinded by my love for her and could she really be cheating?  Where’s The Fidelity?

Dear WTF: The Bitter Single Guy believes that where there’s smoke there’s fire and on more than one occasion, his readers have believed they have smelled smoke when there wasn’t a trace and on some occasions have believed that an obvious cheater is just making new friends.  What the BSG means to say here is that it’s a slippery slope, WTF.

Since the BSG doesn’t have your Flirtatious Filly to compare notes about, he has to assume that everything you’re saying is true.  And dude…if what you’re saying is true, this girl is trouble. The BSG knows from occasional experience in his years on the dating front, that relationships require sacrifice.  If you’ve been with Flirtatious Filly for a year and a half, then undoubtedly both of you have seen other folks that you find attractive and have maybe even been approached by some of those folks.  In those moments you decide that the grass ISN’T really greener on the other side of that pasture fence and you stick with Flirtatious Filly (and she with you, supposedly) because of greater rewards, blah, blah, blah (the BSG can’t hide his bitterness sometimes).

However, just as children will sometimes push the limits their parents give them, sometimes folks in relationships will push relationship limits and see just how much flirting they can engage in without getting in trouble.  Maybe this means a little flirting, maybe it means leading someone on (this sounds like your Flirtatious Filly) and maybe a kiss or two.  Either way, a parent with a child like this learns to set firm boundaries and to act swiftly to correct behavior that starts to go bad (did Flirtatious Filly’s parents let her get away with anything she wants?  Hmmmm…the BSG wonders.)

WTF, the BSG doesn’t necessarily want to tell you to jump off Flirtatious Filly (so to speak), but the longer this goes on the worse it’s going to get in the BSG’s opinion (look up the word “cuckold” and see if any of that fits you, WTF).  So if there’s smoke there’s fire and the BSG definitely sees some smoke here.  Tell Flirtatious Filly that you’re done with her incessant flirting and leading-on of other guys. If she continues, bail.  BTW WTF, the BSG usually also believes that cell-phone snooping is an indication that things are VERY bad, but that may be mostly about the BSG’s view of privacy than anything else.