Paranoid Girlfriend, Burned Once Too Often

Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months now and we're very much in love. Last year I was afraid that he was cheating on me so I snooped through his cell phone, but when I confronted him he explained everything and I was OK. Almost a year later, I've confronted him three more times. Each time he explains himself, so I still have no REAL evidence, I just feel that he's still cheating on me. My previous boyfriend did cheat, but I never suspected him and got burned. Am I too paranoid? Am I crazy? -- Where There's Smoke, There's Fire

Dear W.T.S.T.F.:The Bitter Single Guy can sure see why (considering your former boyfriend's infidelity) you would become hypersensitive to "the signs". The B.S.G. can also understand that whiny fear that gnaws at you about your current boyfriend. He can even go along with (The B.S.G. can't believe he's saying this) a little harmless cell phone snooping in times of strife. Yes, W.T.S.T.F., where there is smoke, there is often as you say, fire. So, help the B.S.G. out here…exactly where is this smoke? You have your suspicions, you confront your boyfriend, he explains, all is well, you get suspicious again, lather, rinse, repeat. One of two things is happening here. He's a miraculous salesman and you're an easy sell or…he's actually not cheating! The B.S.G.'s gut reaction (and yours too, from your letter) is that he's not cheating and you're reacting to your previous boyfriend's tacky behavior. W.T.S.T.F., you're thinking you learned the signs of cheating from your former beau, but the B.S.G. is thinking you're reading the wrong set of signs. Yes, you're paranoid (but probably not crazy). -- B.S.G.