She Calls and Calls and He Just Doesn’t Respond

Dear Bitter Single Guy: When my ex moved away he stopped talking to me because he was hurt that I would not have his baby. We are now back in contact after a lot of effort on my part to get him to speak to me again.
Now he acts like he wants something serious with me again, but I don’t hear from him unless I call. He still lives in another state and said he wants me to come out to visit, but I am afraid that it will be a one time thing and that that he is really not that into me anymore (and maybe still a little hurt about the baby thing). My friends say he is just busy with his new job, but I think if you like someone you make time to talk to them. He used to treat me super special and I can see the difference. How do I know if he likes me or if he is busy? – I Want Him Back

Dear IWHB: The Bitter Single Guy has no good news for you.  Short answer: this (relation)ship has sailed. (the BSG loves his own clever use of “relationship” there!) The BSG doesn’t know if there are a whole bunch of indicators of his love that you’re just not mentioning, or if your Bonny Beau couldn’t care less. From the BSG’s view, it’s the couldn’t care less choice.
Let’s examine the situation together, shall we?  Bonny Beau lives in another state, he’s hurt because you didn’t have his baby (the BSG doesn’t really want to tug that thread IWHB, but there’s really a ton to work with there), he’s non-responsive, doesn’t seem to have time for you and (shockingly) doesn’t treat you “super special” anymore (IWHB, remove the phrase “super special” from your vocabulary. You should have left it behind along with BFF).
IWHB if this elusive fish bites your continually cast hooks, what have you imagined your life with this man will be like?  Do you imagine that if you work hard enough you’ll wear him down and he’ll be yours?  This makes you like some sort of twisted used car salesman, and the BSG believes that you have more to offer than that (or at least that you should pretend that you have more to offer than that).
Don’t call him again, don’t write to him, and for the love of heaven don’t go visit him unless what you’re looking for us a booty call.  And if that’s what you’re looking for, don’t bother packing your self-esteem for the trip because the BSG knows that you’ll be all fall-in-lovey and it will go badly.