Stalking Your Way to Love

 Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have been in a relationship with a great girl for seven months. Recently she told me that we might not be compatible and that I am too nice and don't challenge her. I am truly in love with this girl and will do anything for her, but I don't know if she is biding time to find another love or is scared of making the step to commitment. Should I make a stand and call her bluff or be myself and take this emotional beating? - Heart on My Sleeve

Dear HOMS: The Bitter Single Guy is always pleased to see people ready to fight for their relationships. It's so romantic-comedy-starring-Meg-Ryan when someone stands up and says "Even though you don't love me, I'm going to hound you and annoy you until love blooms like mold on a piece of Wonder Bread!" Competing for relationships is hardwired somewhere into the male brain…although could also be interpreted as stalker-like.

HOMS, the BSG knows that you can't see clearly enough through your love goggles to realize that a dumping is imminent, but it is. Your gentle soon-to-be-ex is trying to soften the blow, without even realizing that statements like "we might not be compatible" conjure the image of her in a white coat in a laboratory late at night with beakers of steaming chemicals, a whiteboard of complicated calculations, and various rodents in cages. There, she is testing your compatibility and is sure to let you know once she finishes her research.

HOMS, the BSG is pretty sure you get his overly sarcastic point: she's not waiting for experiment results because she doesn't think you're compatible and is getting ready to dump you. A preemptive strike is the only action that will allow you to save face. Dump her sorry ass and ask her if that challenges her sufficiently.